The “Follow/Unfollow Dance” builds your lists … but to what end?
Social media whiz & Cheesehead Homie Erik Johnson writes powerfully about his experience with one of his intellectual idols. Viz:
Every school had one. The kid who pretended to be your friend just to get something he wanted from you and then acted like youâ€™d never met. The user. Not the model you would build a business around and certainly not the model for a business social media strategy.
If you’ve been paying attention to the growing phenomenon on Twitter of people who want to bill themselves as thought leaders & social media experts following you & then unfollowing you a few weeks later after snookering you into believing there is a mutual interest, this sad saga will seem very familiar. I’m having my own issue with it myself – I’ve noted that a lot of the people that I follow don’t seem to actually be interested in connecting with me, other than to connect. I don’t get any follow-up conversation out of the connection.
I’ll admit it. I’m not as diligent as I should be in following/unfollowing and tracking everything that’s going on in the social sphere. Been spending a lot of time on content creation the past few months – writing books, creating lesson plans, wireframing sites, handling social media forÂ other people … so yeah, mea culpa.
I turned to JustUnfollow to see if this would help.
The service generates a DM that you can customize to say thanks to the people that follow you. It’s kinda filled up my DM column with these messages. As you can see, I tried to make the “Thanks” message a little less boilerplate sounding.
I had kinda hoped that this service would run in the background and keep some kind of order to my Twitter feed. And then, I got this little notification:
It appears that in trying to set up a system by which I rewarded people with at least a DM for following me, I somehow stumbled into a situation where that DM is seen as the very thing that I was trying to avoid. I probably need to go in and tweak the settings on JustUnfollow to make sure this doesn’t happen again. Also, I should probably use JustUnfollow to see if there is some chicanery going on with my Follow/Unfollow stats. I’m interested in connecting with journalists and New Media thinkers, to widen the variety and depth of the info-flow that I expose myself to.
However, I still struggle with taming the torrent. And yeah, I know that is ironic, given the stated mission of this blog. But The situation is not being helped by the amount of “Hey, are you really paying attention to me?” messages coming at me, especially when compared to the “Social Media Users” that are trying to get me roped into following them, just so they can boost their own Klout score.
Here’s what I wrote as a comment on Erik’s blog. And yes, I do recommend that you follow him.
Unfortunately, I am locked in exactly this kind of dance myself on social media. As the number of Twitter followers you have starts to become a real badge denoting authenticity and authority, the incentives are there to â€œgame the system.â€ Iâ€™ve tried to restrict my Twitter feed to only people that I actually can pay attention to; when in the early days, I went nuts and got up into the thousands, my feed was streaming so fast that I couldnâ€™t actually get any value out of it. Which brought my efforts to the equivalent of spitting into a vast, anonymous torrent. Iâ€™ve got quite enough of that trying to engage in the blogosphere, thank you very much.
Whenever I see Twitter accounts with 40,000 followers and 40,000 following â€“ well, I know that the person has devoted significant time to building a list and a presence. But it makes me wonder â€“ will they actually respond to an attempt at conversation? Can they? Is it even possible with the flow from 40K people coming through HootSuite/Tweetdeck? I couldnâ€™t do it with 1500.
And if the point of social media isnâ€™t to actually have a conversation with people about something of mutual value â€¦ then whatâ€™s the damn point, anyway? Just start graffitiâ€™ing up billboards and save the rest of us from the tricks and games, already.
At this point, I’d have to give JustUnfollow a Sip With Caution rating: